Confessions Of A Seduction Guru

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,


Just a short while ago I had an unusually negative experience which requires me to confess.

Actually, I've been building to this negative experience for days, without consciously realizing.

You see, as I have preached time and again, you have to daily practice the attitudes, beliefs, energy and yes (I know this sounds "New Age") patterns of breathing that give you the confidence and charisma to attract women, anytime, anywhere, often without evening opening your mouth first!

But, the past week, I've been so-fired up, attending to some great new ideas for my business that I have not been practicing what I preach.

Yes, your good Old Guru of Poon deserves a well placed kick in his ass for being a hypocrite and NOT practicing.

Well, today I got that kick.

You see, when I got up today, I just wasn't feeling "right". I was tired, cranky, not in touch with my usual energy, and as a result, when I was "sarging" this morning, having my daily Starbucks coffee

Every Sarge Fell Flat!

Yes, I confess. Even your Guru is a human and has to practice, all the time, to stay in the best state of mind.

And your state of mind; your energy, beliefs and the attitude your project are very important.

They are like the conductive medium; the wire if you will-across which you send the electricity of your spoken words.

So don't be a goof like me. Practice what I teach you, daily. Do the breathing, the meditation, and the visualizations daily(and take care of your body with some good exercise too) and you will see daily results that will astonish you.

And if you want to find out more about how to radiate a confidence, charisma and energy that has women approaching you, just go right here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


You'll learn a quick, ten minute, daily breathing/energy/visualizing ritual that will make you a true winner with women. And don't be a lazy, good-for-nuthin' ass like your Guru sometimes is.

GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!

Piece and peace,

RJ

P.S. If you already radiate with confidence and just want some amazing ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere, get my most current popular product that the students are raving about-my Gold Walk Up DVD.

Just go here:

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Going For The First Kiss

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)

"Hi Guys

It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.

I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.

We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.

At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.

All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?

It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.

I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.

Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.

TR London, England"


Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.

Here is where you screwed it up:

YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!

What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?

You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.

If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!

The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.

What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.

You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.

Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.

When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Want to enjoy fantastic success with amazing women, without resorting to traditional dating, stupid "dating tips", trite "dating advice", canned "pick up lines" and the rest of that nonsense?

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Meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say. Check out the amazing Gold Walk Up DVD and learn the 4 approach positions that will have you easily approaching women any time and never have to think about what comes out of your mouth:

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Ouch, That Hurt

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.

Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.

But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.

Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?

Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.

Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.

Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.

For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.

Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.

But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!

Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.

Piece and peace,

RJ


P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.

Just go here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp

and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.


P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp


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200 Women In One Night!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill (Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)

No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!

So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.


I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein - Cork, Ireland

John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out
your fellow Speed Seduction ® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say? Then check out:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


and

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp

And let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!


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The *FORCE* Is With You ... To Get Hot Women

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I have to make a silly confession: I am going to stood in
line for hours to see the latest "Star Wars" movie.

Now, I realize that being a "geek" at heart, those who know
me personally wouldn't be at all surprised.

But you, my dear students, should be aware, that one reason
I love Star Wars is…

I Really Do Believe In "The Force".

No, not necessarily something as radical as Master Yoda
levitating a space ship.

But I DO believe in "The Force" of breath, intent,
awareness, belief and skill-the skill of capturing and leading
the imagination and emotions-to help you have all the success
with women you could ever want.

Why do I believe this?

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For those of you who already are powerful in the "Force",
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Not just because I've seen it in my own life, over and over.

But more importantly, because of what you, my students, tell
me and have told me ever day, for the past dozen years about the
amazing transformation the Speed Seduction® "Force" has allowed
you to enjoy in your lives.

From guys who have never had a girlfriend their entire adult
lives, turning it around and having multiple women. Or guys who have had to settle for what they could get, now enjoying who they really want. To guys lifting years of depression and fear in weeks or even days and going back to enjoying life.

My friend, if you really want to learn to be a true "Jedi"
in the world of women, and having mastery of life as well, keeping working on those important things-

Learning to control and design your beliefs, attitude,
awareness, energy and skills.


The Power Of Asking The Right Questions

Finally, I want to speak about the most "Jedi" of "Jedi"
ideas. Something Yoda would surely agree with, preach and teach.

It's about the qualities you bring to your learning.

That is asking yourself a radical question, "What is the quality I want to bring to this challenge of mastering seduction?

What is the quality of energy,attitude, feeling and vibe I want to bring with me as I move towards mastery of these skills?"

You see, part of being a true seduction "Jedi" is knowing
how to ask the right questions.

And I know, many of you might ask, "What do I really want to
be able to do with Speed Seduction®? How can I make Speed
Seduction® most quickly and easily work for me?"

Good questions.

But the best question is: what quality do I want to bring to
my efforts as I move more and more every day toward mastery?

Do you want to make it about desperately and fearfully
trying to master new skills and bring your old anxiety and
fears with you?

"That, my friend, to the Dark Side, leads".

My friend, the good side of the Force is all about bring the
right qualities along with you as you move up the ladder of success with women, and about the daily practices that support those qualities.

Will you treat yourself with compassion, patience, and have
the ability to be kind to yourself when you trip over your "light saber" the first few times you try this stuff?

When you practice with women, will you do it from a place
of being "afraid of getting caught?" Or hoping she will like you?

Or can you do it from a place of believing, "no matter what
happens with this woman, I'll have fun and learn what I need to
succeed, if not now then surely sooner or later. I can always
have fun and learn!"

Can you find a place of compassion and clarity in your
mind, where you can daily give yourself credit for what you did
right, calmly correct mistakes, and mentally rehearse doing it
right?

Can you daily bring consistency, patience, and vision to
where you want to go even when things are at first not going
right?

The experience of thousands of students says, you can.

And that you can have pleasure, enjoyment, power and fun with women beyond your wildest dreams..AND stay on the "Good" Side of the Force!

To which I say, "right on".

Peace and piece,

RJ


P.S. Here is a beautiful testimonial from a student who has
truly become a "Jedi" of Speed Seduction®. What does he know that you yet don't, but could rapidly learn as he did from my Magick/PI course? Get yours here, right now:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj170.asp

Here is his un-edited letter, with his full real name, state
and city:

Hi Ross,

I wrote you a couple of months ago about my experiences with
your Core responsive videos. Now I'm working with your Magick
Influence set and am very impressed. I've worked with various forms of ritual work in the past ( from pagan to chaos ) but couldn't get them off the ground. The energy exercises really do make the difference. People, and opportunities are coming at me very quickly these days. I'm making more money, and women are calling me and seeking to spend time with me. Energy really makes the difference.

I've been with you since 93 and I'm a fan of the old SS.
That's for certain. However these last 2 sets, (magick and core
responsiveness) are at what I believe will be the beginning of a
new model not only for seduction, but for real and lasting change for anyone with an open mind and the good sense to use it.

As I said in my last email to you, the old SS got me laid.
It got me over many of my fears, illusions and resentment toward
women. This in and of itself was a magickal act lol !!!!But there was always a sense of labor involved in doing the old SS, if I'm going to be honest. And I had to evaluate whether a female was worth the effort of doing SS.

However with the new SS I really enjoy women now. In fact I
love a number of them these days. Women are now easy to be around. Their energy doesn't scare me or piss me off as it did in the past. I really get that I'm not a beggar seeking sexual favors, buy a giver of incredible gifts. One being the gift of my energy and two being the ability to open her emotions to a higher dimension of self understanding and intimacy. As result I'm getting a lot of female attention. I'm getting priority and loyalty from women as well as flirtation. Before the old SS, back in the old shitty days, I was either used or ignored by women. What a fucking difference!!!

I've wondered for awhile if SS could be taken to the place
in which average men using the system could get the same attention from women that rock stars, movie stars and professional athletes enjoy.In other words the groupie phenomenon. I think you're very close to opening us up to that. There are days lately when that's how it feels:)

Right now I'm deciding which women I want to take things
further with. I have options I didn't have before. Not too long
ago I would have f***ed the first woman who responded to my Sarge. My intuition is guiding me to an extent as well.

On the career level, I was given a lucrative opportunity
that has put me around wealthy people and their money. Oddly enough, I had no experience in this field, but the person who
hired me likes me now. Wild huh?


Anyway I bought a seat for your July magick seminar. So
I'll see you then.

Ross, Thank You for your Guts, Genius, and Friendship.


Art Simkins Riverside, Ca


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Astonishing Use of Speed Seduction®!!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the very great joys for me in teaching this technology Is how my very best and brightest students will use it, NOT just for getting hot women, but in other areas of life.

When tools and ways of thinking work beyond a specific area, but can be adopted for many of life's challenges, you KNOW you are on to something.

So I got this email I HAD to share about how I guy took what he learned and used to control his fear in a VERY stressful situation.

Remember, as you read this, what I have said time and again:

YOUR STATE OF MIND IS CRUCIAL TO YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN! LEARN TO CONTROL YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE HALF-WAY HOME TO ATTRACTING THE HOTTEST WOMEN!



From: Chris Williams To:
sandworm77@comcast.net Subject: Letter from a very satisfied customer


Good morning Mr. Jeffries,

I just now got back from an amazing experience, and I wanted to thank you for your part in it.

I got home from the hospital a few hours ago after having our first baby. While it is true that I meet my wife using the tools I developed with the Basic SS Home Study course in 1999, that is not the reason I am writing.

I bought the Home Study Course last spring, and one of the many great things I learned from that was handling fear. My word when I have the feelings that I used to call fear is "texhad". This re-frames the sensations I have in body that I used to call feeling fear as being anticipation of a "thrilling, exciting adventure".

Texhad was the word that kept going through my mind as I was driving my wife to the hospital. When we arrived there, they had some challenging news for us. The baby already had her first bowel movement and had contaminated the amniotic fluid. In technical terms, the danger was that she would aspirate the merconium. This can be very serious. One of my good friend's son did this, and he was in the neo-natal intensive care for a week before they were sure he would live.

While my wife was crying when we heard this news, I discovered that I did not automatically react. Instead of immediately allowing my feelings to be effected by this news, I was able to get into a monitoring state and cause my response. I was able to choose that this was going to the adventure part of the day's "thrilling, exciting adventure", and I can honestly
say that I was never scared at any time.

Twenty-four hours later when our OB announced that my wife was exhausted after three hours of pushing and we had to go to the OR for a C-section, I turned down another chance to be scared. I was able to ride out the adventure, strongly support my wife without a trace of doubt of fear in my reactions, and at the end we were rewarded with a beautiful and perfectly healthy
baby girl.

The main thing I have learned from this is that the end result was almost certainly going to be the same either way. The only difference was going to be what sort of ride I took getting from the beginning to the end. I chose to have fun, and so I did.

I honestly thank you for that.

Your very grateful client,

Chris Williams


Dear Chris,

Now, what can you say when you get fan-mail like THAT? Except that being a leader; someone who is in control of HIMSELF, instead of obsessively trying to control women, is what REALLY attracts great women into your life AND makes you worthwhile being in theirs! That's a win-win for EVERYONE!

That's it for this issue.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

P.S. You can learn to have the same self-control, peace of mind, and natural leadership that makes you a great mate AND attract hot women! Just go to: http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp


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How To Turn That *Friend* Into Your Devoted Lover!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It's truly amazing the questions I get.

I guess since this newsletter goes around the world and
reaches guys from every walk of life, from every kind of
culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different
problems with women.

But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much
the same.

We all face pretty much the same challenges.

We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same
puzzles.

Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the
reader speak in his own voice:



"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your
material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many
little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And
for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you
learned all of this but it really is great.

I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very
busy man who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none
the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel
a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger
than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a
girl. We talk for hours, we are very physically close when we
are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning
friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there
anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings
and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to
know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she
is a friend or something more."

Ok, Mr. X.

The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally
attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly
fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang,
there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age,
that she is going to make the first physical move.

Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.

I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always
have to go first.

But that is how it works.

So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you
herself, it's unlikely to happen.

Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that
doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her
are going to go.

As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a
leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having
to go there for yourself.

That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to
take them on for yourself.

Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.

Stand your ground, and set the lead

Does that make sense?

Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to
accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.

First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.

I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.

Why?

It's too rough a jump.

To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is
just too abrupt.

So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical
boundaries first.

Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots"
that seem like totally innocent places to touch.

These are:

1. The back of the neck 2. The small of the back 3. The
palm(and thumb)

(By the way, if you want to see free video clips of me
demonstrating the first two spots on a very hot female subject,
just go to:

http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp)

Anyway, here is what you can do:

When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom,
but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently
rub the back of your neck(as I illustrate on the free video on
the website).

Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with
pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!

Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm.
Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get
a book on it.

Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows
she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that
her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires.
Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take
your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.

If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look
that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls
back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just
seemed like you needed it"!

Another thing to do(also illustrated on the website) is to
put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are
walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her
briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong
sexual energy center.

The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached
to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;

I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order
to get what I want or even BETTER, next time.

If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief,
you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.

Piece and Peace,

RJ


P.S. Want real success with women? Your Speed Seduction(R) Home Study course is waiting for you! Go here, now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

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When To Be Sexually Aggressive With Women

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is
students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but
tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle
stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they
drop the ball.

In fact, just recently, I received the following email from
a student:

"Ross, The last two newsletters were awesome.

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been
tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the
state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed
opportunities because I am used to being "shy" to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice
looking 18 year old. I banged her mom using the blammo pattern,
and then her mom set me up with her daughter.

I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and
she kissed me. I still didn't close the deal!! Sounds pretty
sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again,
even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset
after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the new
letters in order to become a more calm and confident version of
myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not
after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can't close the deal
when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response."

Your humble student,
Paul Ruggerio, Eaton Rapids, MI

Ok, Paul, and all of the rest of you who may have this
issue:

Let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and
making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on
or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating
periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up
even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

In hypnosis, we call this fractionation. Simply put, you
put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put
them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.
Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to
have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being
physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a
plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they
will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s
actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes,
then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off
to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and
come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and
then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off
straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t get more aggressive, I
think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns
actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger
than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students:
the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect
it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do.
As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery
ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because
you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had
just gotten his Home Study Course and used some patterns on an
attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she
jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then
said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be come out
with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang
me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the
job, so he wound up having to take a rain check!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success!
Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a
woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Now, another issue is that sometimes women who are turned on
and do want you will suddenly pull up short and have some last
minute resistance to doing the “grown-up”.

We’ll explore THAT one in the next issue.

‘Til then,

Peace and piece


Ross Jeffries

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wanted right now, by going to:

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7 Power Attitudes To Skyrocket Your Success With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude".
In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject
will be as important as what you do.

Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective
action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.

However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women
will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the
conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR
will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it
through:

a. A sheet of cardboard

b. A sheet of copper foil

Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't
need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so,
your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your
"moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?

With that in mind I give you:

POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.

1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can
make.

Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It
isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a
position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this
attitude, for Christ sake. Don’t get right in a woman's face and
say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But
show it in how you act.

2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.

This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't
get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something
to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.

If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in
the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or
lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or
even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose
you!

3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then
pull back and make her work for more.

As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too
soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up
dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a
free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must,
no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and
unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.

4. I always come from the place of being determined to do
what works.

So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just
be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do
what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"

Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent.
And that means applying these principles, all the time, even
when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you
are in a slump.

5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with
women.

I can (and will) do a whole issue on this one, but basically
what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it
doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and
don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)

And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you
tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman,
hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or
you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I
once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get
rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a
woman has good taste!!

6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's
potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses
FAST.

Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move
on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time,
and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more
relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads
to your winning far more often than you ever imagined
possible!!!!

7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I
always for it congruently and powerfully.

Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they
like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing
tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd
say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just
don't know, so go for it anyway.

Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do
with women when you have these attitudes down and are
manifesting them in your life?

Now, speaking of manifestation, I just had to include this
email testimonial I just recently received:

Dear Ross, Well my "dream girl" girlfriend who is ten years
younger then me proposed to me on Chritsmas Eve. I said yes of
course. The beautiful thing about SS is that it gives you the
tools to touch a woman in a beautiful way so much so that your
communications with her are able to take place on a whole
different level.

I have been on the list for seven years Thank you for
helping me provide the women I have come across with such a
beautiful gift!!!

Sean Morris, Los Angeles, CA

Sean, thank you. It’s great to see when someone finds some
true happiness, using the tools I’ve provided them. By the way,
the “list” Sean is speaking of is the Speed Seduction® yahoo
groups list, for Home Study Course owners only. We now have
close to 2,000 students, worldwide, forming a 24 hour community
to help with questions, challenges and to share successes! So
get your Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and join the
community today! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE!

‘Til next time,

Peace and piece,

Ross

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Wimps Into Winners: How To Pass A Woman's B.S. Tests And Win Her Over, Hard!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There's a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all
real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that
really be true? Frankly, I don't know. But I will say this: 95%
of the time, a woman will test you by the second date, or
sooner, to see:

1. If you'll take her bullshit.

2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who
look hungry, never get fed)

3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the
relationship.

In this issue, I'd like to talk about how you can pass those
tests, and how to do some testing of your own. Believe me, this
is important. If you've ever been dumped for being "too nice",
or have been told, time and again, "let's just be friends", it's
because you haven't learned to recognize when you're being
tested or just haven't yet learned how to properly respond. You
thought you would get points for being "co-operative" and
"helpful", and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the
lollipop.

Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty

Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for
from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger
than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set
rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can
relax around you and feel comfortable and secure. This search
for strength is the single most important reason why she tests
you. The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the "make
up my mind for me" syndrome.

You see, the sad reality is that often a woman just isn't
that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren't
exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got
burned in a bad relationship, or there's some unseen competitor
who she's waiting to hear from. What ever her reasons, you can
tell this is happening when you hear something like, "Uh...well,
I'd like to go out with you Friday, but why don't you call me
late Friday afternoon and I'll let you know for sure?"

Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just
get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do
at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that
occur during the peak of the overwhelm.

How To Handle It…Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there's a concept
from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce
Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part
of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming
from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be
feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to.... KICK THE
OTHER GUY'S ASS!!!!

Just so, a woman's bullshit and tests are great
opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her
interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests,
instead of being, "Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do
wrong?", from now on will be.... AH, HAH! A RESPECT
OPPORTUNITY!!!

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of
behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented
opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest,
and intensify her desire to please you. Taken from this
perspective, you'll be mentally prepared, and may even find
yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit,
since you know it's your chance to get her really hot for
you!!!! Now, before we go on to some specific scenarios, let me
add one other thing: when you do put her in her place. ...

IT'S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!

In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and
trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes
late is definitely not the example to follow. All he's doing is
showing he can't control himself and he just earns the woman's
contempt. Notice I'm not saying you can't or shouldn't get a
little pissed. Just don't go nutso with a stream of obscenities.
(Streams of obscenities are for afterward, when you are in bed
with her.)

The other thing that doesn't work is acting like a hurt
little boy. Whining stuff like, "How could you do this to me?"
or, "But you promised!" won't cut it, good buddy. No. You have
to come from the calm, but firm "take it or leave it" position.
This is all part of displaying the critically important.........

WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!

You see, after years of experience and study, I've come to
the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for
you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose
you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk
away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you
are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value,
and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is
an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's
challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever
devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then
where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer:
nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with
this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship
grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!! Ok. On to some
scenarios.

Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time.
Her response is ambivalent, something like, "Well, I'd like to
but, why don't you call me later in the week and...." Here's
your response: "Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going
out with me something you can take or leave or is it something
that you're smart enough that you really want to do that?" Then
shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You're calling her on her
ambivalence and letting her know you don't have time to be put
on hold. And you're also suggesting she's stupid if she doesn't
grab this opportunity.

Finally, you're embedding a command (about which much more
later in other issues of this newsletter) that she really does
want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does.
It's not what she's expecting, and that always gets attention.
Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.
Understatement works best with this one. What if she still
hesitates? Well, say this one: You: Look. You have my number,
and I'm going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don't
call it's going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won't
realize until after you hang up is, that it'll be a loss for you
as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute
without offering to do it again at some specific time. (I've
heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from "My parakeet is
sick" to "I've got to shampoo the rug". Seriously)

Her: I can't make it. I've got a rare tropical disease
that's causing me to shrink by the hour.

You:(dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk
again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What's wrong?

You: What's wrong is I can't believe the bullshit I'm
hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look...you made a commitment to spend time with me and
now you're blowing me off. You're disrespecting me and
disrespecting my time and I'm NOT going to put up with it. My
rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to
keep it. If they can't keep it, I need to know at least a day in
advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with
that rule, great...if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it
work well!!! In fact, she'll probably call back with five
minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I'm not kidding here;
I've seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls,
eager to please me when I've done this. It throws some kind of
switch in their heads. I guess with some people, you don't
really get their attention until...

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking
about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence
with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use
of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an
imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I
can’t make this too clear. I’m talking about using your mind,
NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she
either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or
lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least
that long while totally ignoring you. Wait for her to finish,
and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you
just accidentally acting clueless?

HER:(mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don't ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I'll
always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you
understand me?

HER: Uh..uh...yes.


The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you
want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice
guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle
ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these
tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your
bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time,


Piece and peace

Ross

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7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...

Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:

Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?

Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?

Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?

Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.

Piece and Peace

Ross

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Assertiveness Part 4

HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IN SPECIFIC SITUATIONS

Being assertive can assist you to overcome awkward situations. Here are a few examples that can assist you to:

SAY "NO"

If you do not want to do something, you do not have to do it! Refusing does not mean you are selfish!

Do not feel compelled to give a reason.

Feel free to strike a compromise. "I can not organize your tag sale and I would be happy to donate some items."

EXPRESS YOUR ANGER

There is nothing wrong with feeling anger; it is the way it is expressed that can hurt people.

Do say something. The other person can not read your mind -- and do not count on sulking to get your message across.

Discuss the issue (and that issue only).

Stay calm

Avoid name-calling

Discuss solutions. Compromise.

"I am irritated that you are continually late. Is there some reason why you can not get here on time? Maybe we can change your schedule." NOT "I am sick and tired of this, you lazy bum!"

ASK FOR ASSISTANCE

Asking for assistance is natural and everybody can use it once in a while.

Make your request direct, clear and specific.

Give the person time to choose if he or she wants to do it.

Make sure the person understands that it is OK to say "No." "I have got to move before the end of the month. Could you lend a hand between the 28th and 30th?"

GIVE AND RECIEVE COMPLIMENTS

If receiving praise is tough for you, then just give a smile, a simple "thank you" or a hug, depending on the situation.

Do not insult the person giving the compliment by saying "Oh, is was nothing" simply say "You are welcome or thank you."

If you truly feel the compliment is underserved, acknowledge that, and still thank the person. "I was a bit disappointed myself and I am glad you liked it. Thanks for the support.

When giving praise, be sincere and specific.

PRACTICE YOUR ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS

Becoming assertive takes time and practice. Here is a plan that may assist.

1. SELECT A SITUATION in which you would like to be assertive. "I would like to tell my friends that I do not want to go out with them every Friday night."

2. OBSERVE HOW OTHERS ACT in the same situation. "Dibbie makes excuses. It works, and some people doubt her truthfulness. Tom simply says, "No, thank you. I would rather not.

3.REHEARSE THE SCENE by planning what you will say, how you will make your point. Practice in front of the mirror to be sure you look and act confident as well.

4. GO DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS "I do not want to go our tonight. I would just like to stay home and relax."

5. EVALUATE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE and be critical and do not be too hard on yourself. "I could improve my eye contact. I was direct, I did not make excuses and it worked."

6. DO IT AGAIN .. You can do it!

YOU CAN BECOME ASSERTIVE AS NEVER BEFORE

SAY what is on your mind.

EXPRESS yourself directly, honestly and appropriately

RESPECT you own rights and the rights of others

Being assertive will make a difference in your life ... A DIFFERENCE YOU WILL ENJOY

Assertiveness Part 3

Communication skills are a KEY to being assertive. Become AWARE of:
WHAT YOU SAY

* Be Specific, not general. "I have taken on more responsibilities - purchasing and supervising - and I think I should be compensated accordingly". NOT "You should give me a raise"

* Stay calm, becoming emotional or bringing up the past is counterproductive, i.e., "I had to ask for a raise last year too."
HOW YOU SAY IT

* Be steady. If you voice is too soft, whiny, shaky, sarcastic or threatening, you will not come across well.

* Use "I feel" rather than "You are" in your statements. I feel angry when you do not call to say you are going to be late." NOT " You are such a thoughtless jerk!"
WHERE AND WHEN TO SAY IT

It is best to be assertive most of the time. And some times and places are not appropriate.

The Classic, It is best to confront someone in private rather than in front of people.

It is common courtesy to discuss sensitive issues in private.

KEEPING THE FOLLOWING 4 POINTS IN MIND WILL ASSIST YOU TO INCREASE YOU ASSERTIVENESS

1. Use confident body language

-- Look the person straight in the eye, do not look down or away

-- Keep your body straight, do not slouch.

-- Keep your hands at your sides or in your lap. Do not tap on the table, fiddle with your hair or jewelry, fold your hands across your chest, or point your finger at the other person.

2. Be a good listener

-- Give your full attention to the person who is speaking.

-- Show your interest by responding. Do not simply nod you head in agreement.

-- Briefly summarize in your own words what the person said. It helps eliminate misunderstanding.

3. Respect yourself

-- Realize that you are worthy and have something to offer. Your ideas are important and others can benefit from them.

Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.

Recognize those things you do well. Do not discount them because they are easy for you.

Take gradual steps toward overcoming your weaknesses. Reward yourself as you improve.

4. Respect Others

+ Everybody has the right to express feelings and opinions.

+ Realize the difference between assertion and aggression. Keep each clear. There is no need to threaten, punish or false influence other people. If you treat them with respect, they will treat you with respect.

YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE STRONGER, HEALTHIER AND MORE ENJOYABLE WHEN THEY ARE BASED ON MUTUAL RESPECT.

How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?

Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”

Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.

Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.

But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.

You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).

Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..

Relationships By Default!

You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.

Does this sound familiar?

Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.

Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.

Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.

But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.


The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions


Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"

The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".

The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!

What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.

The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"

The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.

Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.

As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.

That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"

Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.

The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment

With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.

Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."

See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.

But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!

This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!

Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question

The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.

The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.

(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).

Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).

Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)

Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"

Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."

Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.

I said, "It's too short."

She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.

I said, "No, it's too short."

She said, "What is?"

I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."

She smiled and said, "Thank you!"

I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"

This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.

My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.

A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."

By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.

Approach Position 3: The Put-On

Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".

Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"

At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.

Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.

I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?

I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"

She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.

If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.

One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.

So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."

My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"

At that point, SHE began a conversation.

There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".

Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition

The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?

In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.

This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"

It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.

Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,

Peace and piece,


Ross

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The Tao Principle of Balance in Motion

Today this question came in about the All-New Speed Summit Home Study Course:

"I am currently trying to decide whether or not to buy the Speed Summit 2008 DVD course. I watched your videos on YouTube and I really like your style, but I have just one question: You say that one should never be moved by praise or persecution. That is easy to say for someone who's been born insensitive. For me, however, it's exactly as good as the suggestion to not feel pain when kicked in the balls. I would really like to know if you are just giving spread-your-wings-and-fly type of advice, or are you also capable of teaching people how to actually do it?. OLav"


"Olav!"

When I talk about not being moved by praise or persecution, I am NOT talking about being insensitive. Far from it!

In fact, I teach an increase in sensory acuity so one can see what is ACTUALLY occurring!

I didn't say don't notice it.

I didn't say don't care.

I said don't be MOVED by it.

For example,

Praise: "Olav, you are such a great guy. Please loan me 1000 dollars"

Persecution: "Olav, you are so greedy. Don't you care about me at all? Loan me 1000 dollars"

In each of the above, the person is using praise or persecution in order to pressure you to lend him 1000 dollars.

To be MOVED by either would be to succumb to the pressure and loan the 1000 dollars, even if your intuition is telling you that you shouldn't loan the 1000 dollars because it would cause you hardship or you may never be repaid.

This is a very different from "feeling pain when kicked in the balls"

I didn't say don't feel it.

I didn't say it doesn't hurt.

I said don't be MOVED by it, meaning, don't waver from your honor or principle and trusting your instincts for the sake of the pressure/pain of praise/persecution.

And the more SENSITIVE a person is, the more they need to know this stuff so they can control their own destiny and not be manipulated by those who are less caring and sensitive - the selfish, the greedy, the energy vampires.

Make sense?

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* Move with Dynamic Intention


* Harness The Power of Focus


* Influence Others Magnetically


* Live By Design, Rather Than Default!


* The One Word Concept that is the KEY to Mastering Life


* How To Protect Your Energy


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Yours in the Tao of Huna Light,

Scott Bolan

Never Fear Again!

These days its fairly easy to predict the weather.

Would you like to be able to predict YOUR future as easily as predicting when it's going to rain or snow?

When we know what the weather is going to be, we can easily prepare for it so we're never caught off-guard.

Why not approach life in a "prepared" mode?

Why not prepare in advance, so that you will meet the future with confidence ability and empowerment, rather than panic confusion and fear?

It's been said that "Luck" is what happens when preparedness meets opportunity. That's true. There's no such thing as luck except the luck which we create and act upon.

The Spirit Warrior makes his or her own luck.

Remember this important rule:

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* Why Salesmen Fail and How To Reverse It

* Some Secrets of Time Distortion

* Never Fear Again: How To Obliterate Fear and Get it out of your life for good!

* Changing Your Past Present & Future using Time Line Therapy

* Zanshin Hakalau: The Warriors Greatest Secret of Awareness

* How To Tell If Someone Is Lying (the complete course!)

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Not bad for one DVD, eh?

Helping You Always Win,

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How To Find Success Without Struggle

Have you ever found yourself tired, stressed out, overwhelmed, lonely and discouraged?

We all have at one time or another. And each time it happened to me, after I got over it, I vowed to never let it happen again...

... but of course, it DID happen again! And again, and again, and again...

Finally, in quiet moment of reflection after studying the ancient texts, it dawned on me exactly what I was doing that was causing my suffering. In fact,
this one thing was the "root" of all of my problems, and the key to my success!

What was it? It was this: I was using will and effort.

Using will and effort is like pushing the car uphill, rather than sitting in the car and driving it!

And by doing so I was literally standing in the way of the divine protective spirit that wanted to bless me and give me all of my desires!

It was like a light-switch went on!

Now combined with ancient wisdom of the Samurai, the Kahunas, the Mind Masters and Authentic Warriors and Innovators - literally, the Warrior Kings! – the principle of the "way of no way" finally made perfect sense!

So I grabbed my binder of the original "Knowing is Not Enough" private newsletters with Bruce Lee's handwritten studies and notes (I am one of only
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the same principle - he Played By the Rules of the Enlightened Warrior King!

And so can YOU!

Listen up, friend. Life can be a struggle, or a joy. The difference is in knowing how to align the three selves, apply the learnings therein, and like water you become unstoppable!

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That's the beauty and simplicity of the Warrior King Lifestyle - you don't even intend to do it. It just simply is. Water doesn't intend to go where it goes - it doesn't "try" to go where it goes - it just goes there!

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Scott Bolan

Using Time Distortion To Overcome Resistance

Richard Bandler, the co-founder of NLP has said, and I agree, that the best way to break through resistance is either go before it or after it.

What he meant is that rather than go after the reasons why a person has decided the way he or she has, get them to go either before they ever made the decision and see it a different way, or take them to an imaginary point in time of having already made the decision you want them to, link massive pleasure to it, and have them look back on it as heaving already been made. Since it’s already happened, it’s impossible to resist or do anything but relax, because they are about to get what they want!

Phrases for time distortion:

1. Won’t it be great after you’ve….

2. Imagine a time in your future….

3. Look forward to….

4. Looking back on….

After you have read all the blog post and implemented the knowledge to change your life, won't it be fantastic to look back and say, WOW.

Dr YJC

The Hawaiian Way of Life

Rev Vince Wingo Speaks:

This is absolutely amazing! I simply must share this with you!

As most of you know, Huna and Ho'oponopono were my birthright.

Dad was speaking Huna light and wisdom to me before I was even
born.

Mom told me I would always sit-at-the-knee of Dad and the top experts on Hawaiian Healing while they discussed Huna for hours and hours.

While my infant Uhane (conscious mind) didn't understand their words, my Aumakua (high self/super-conscious mind) was picking it all up all light-speed...

...this was a gift from the Divine!

... as I would find out just a few years later...

Since my earliest memory my job ... my mission ... my very purpose in life ... has been to share the Wisdom of the Ancient Kahuna Masters.

Since about the age of 4 dad taught me to understand Morrnah Simeona's goal: "To have the PEACE within the individual reflect through the community, society, the nation and the Universe. Regardless of race, or creed, the Doorways to the New Age are: PEACE, BALANCE, WISDOM and LOVE in all LIFE and CREATION."

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It's nice to see folks NOT having to struggle. It's nice to see them having enough money to help themselves and others living a more comfortable life.

It's just a by-product of living in the Aumakua ... it's like wet with the water!

The two are inseparable.

Now imagine this - I'm living this and teaching this, and lo and behold I meet two like minds from other parallel fields - Dr. Yates Canipe and Master Scott Bolan!

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Master Scott Bolan discovered the Mental and Energetic Secrets of the Spirit-Force behind the Martial Arts. He's like the living embodiment of a Taoist sage, combined with the practicality of a modern warrior. Scott found the very essence of "Shen" (Spirit) and miracles occur around him daily! His greatest passion is sharing this knowledge with others...

Now imagine, what it was like when all three of us got together! Yes, it was nothing short of absolute magic. I don't know any other way to say it!

AND, get this; it was all caught live on film!

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After that, it goes up no ifs, ands, or buts’...

.... so go ahead and make an investment into YOUR future, so that you too can live "the Hawaiian Way of Life"...

Whatever your choice, I wish you all the best. Thanks for letting me share this with you tonight. I am thinking of you and I know if you have goals, dreams and desires - they are all possible and this will help you accomplish them very quickly.


Mahalo,

--Vince
Rev. James Vinson Wingo, DD

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