Going For The First Kiss

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)

"Hi Guys

It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.

I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.

We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.

At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.

All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?

It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.

I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.

Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.

TR London, England"


Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.

Here is where you screwed it up:

YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!

What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?

You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.

If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!

The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.

What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.

You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.

Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.

When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Why aren't YOU getting these results with women?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I just got TWO emails from students reporting their incredible results with women, using my system, and I HAD to share them with you.

As you read them, and imagine enjoying these results for yourself, you will notice that these guys give SPECIFIC descriptions of the techniques they used from my courses (and also give some juicy details about what the women did to and WITH them as a result!)

I want you to get excited as you read these two emails and wonder, WHEN WILL I BUY MY HOME STUDY COURSE SO I CAN ENJOY THESE RESULTS AS WELL?

Here are the emails:

Hi Ross and Everyone,

An amazing story for me. I met this girl who I went to elementary and middle school with through the Internet. We both used to live in Monterey and grew up around each other, but then I moved to another town and 8 years later we meet in another town.

Story- I instant message girl online, talked for a little while and met the following night. She came over here, I introduced cube game to her, then I talked about how I was learning to be a blissnotist, but I didn't go into detail about it until she came over. I think that made her really curious to meet me. Then I read some poetry and used the loop technique from a newsletter that was sent out before. The we started having wild passionate sex.

Well after we had sex she had mentioned Monterey and how she used to live there and I told her I used to live there, then I asked her what school she went to and the school she named was the same school I went to, then I asked her what her name was again and she said it and I told her I knew someone by that name that went to the same school I went to and that the girl I knew by that name had invited me to go to a special birthday celebration she had for her 15th birthday, where she had to dance at the thing.

Well, I told her I remember telling the girl I knew that I wouldn't go to her birthday celebration cause I was supposed to dance with her but that I didn't know how to dance Spanish music. So I never went.

She then paused and looked shock and then she asked me what was the girls last name that I knew and I told her. She suddenly looked even more shocked and then I was kinda shocked by her shockness. She asked me what my name was and well I use a different name when I meet woman from the Internet, but then I told her my first name and last name and she repeated it and said slowly, with a still shocked look on her face "Oh My God, you're so and so"

Then I pulled out pictures and yearbooks and there we were as youngsters in the yearbooks, me looking like a dork, I always thought she was hot being a cheerleader all throughout the whole time we went to school together. So the mood changed from passionate to being really aware.

We both lived on the same street in Monterey too. She lived just a few houses down from mine. I even described her house to her I, what her yard looked like. I went so far back that I took her to a time when I rode by on my bicycle stopped in front of her house as she was walking towards her front door and smiled at her as she stopped for a second and smiled back. I remembered and described what she was wearing that day. Now we're seeing each other. I've elicited her most important values and they just so happen to match mine which is really good.

Thanks, Ross!

BM



Could use a bit of assistance here... I'll try to be brief but that's not my strong-suit - LOL!

Background - I seem to be having a lot of success with neighbors. 1st night closes with both the woman who lives on top of me and the one in front (my complex is a target rich environment!). (Oh, and Ross - the second one happened days after I got back from LA. Thanks again for your time while I was there, and yes, I know she's also "geographically undesirable", but oh so desirable in every other way!)

The fling with the girl on top lasted a few weeks; we're still friends. She was fun and I enjoyed her, but not what I'm looking for long term. The one in front is another matter. She'd be an HB11 on my uncle's scale (a 9 with money!). She's the topic of this post.

I've known her casually for some time. She's very reclusive and hard to get to know; she's lived in front of me for over a year and a half... Does travel a lot with work, but most of the time you'd never know 'cuz when she is home she's rarely seen. Over the past few months I'd seen a bit more of her. She came out with her niece and nephew to play with my dog one day and we had a good conversation. A couple of weeks later, I was out detailing my car and she again came down to chat (very unusual for her!). The following weekend, she was out cleaning HER car and we started chatting, among other things she said that I'd inspired her (one good sign!). She also asked if I knew who lives above her, because they were up all night partying and having sex she couldn't get any sleep. I blushed, smiled sheepishly and said "That was probably actually us" (the other neighbor had been over the night before, and my bedroom is directly behind this one's...). She replied that if was me she wouldn't complain to the complex, but to get on the floor next time 'cuz my bed squeaks. I ended up trading a wax job (on the car, not her - LOL!) in exchange for her taking me to happy hour. A few days after that I left town for a while so didn't get a chance to take her up on the happy hour for a while.

Two days after I got back from my trip (I did some one-on-one counseling in LA with Marilyn Sargent and spent an afternoon with Ross) I ran into her out front. She invited me to come by later to watch a movie, and I countered with her coming to my place since I've got a nice home theater. She agreed and showed up a bit later. We decided just to talk & get to know each other a bit instead of the movie, which culminated in a late night visit to the Jacuzzi and spending the night at her place (hot sex, pussy breath and all!!!). Only two moments of last minute resistance; on the way to the pool I started holding her hand and she said "Wait a minute. We're holding hands! What about Jeannie (other neighbor)?" I replied, "Jeannie said she wants to see other people." which is true, by the way. That settled that. Then, just as we were getting into bed, she goes, "Hold on, we're neighbors! Doesn't that pose a problem for ... wait, I guess not. Nevermind..."
Brother BB

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Now what are you looking for? CHRISTMAS! Call right now and get YOUR Home Study Course and enjoy results like these!


Piece and Peace,

RJ

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How To *Lock In* Lasting Self-Confidence With Women!

Wimps Into Winners: How To Pass A Woman's B.S. Tests And Win Her Over, Hard!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There's a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all
real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that
really be true? Frankly, I don't know. But I will say this: 95%
of the time, a woman will test you by the second date, or
sooner, to see:

1. If you'll take her bullshit.

2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who
look hungry, never get fed)

3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the
relationship.

In this issue, I'd like to talk about how you can pass those
tests, and how to do some testing of your own. Believe me, this
is important. If you've ever been dumped for being "too nice",
or have been told, time and again, "let's just be friends", it's
because you haven't learned to recognize when you're being
tested or just haven't yet learned how to properly respond. You
thought you would get points for being "co-operative" and
"helpful", and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the
lollipop.

Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty

Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for
from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger
than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set
rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can
relax around you and feel comfortable and secure. This search
for strength is the single most important reason why she tests
you. The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the "make
up my mind for me" syndrome.

You see, the sad reality is that often a woman just isn't
that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren't
exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got
burned in a bad relationship, or there's some unseen competitor
who she's waiting to hear from. What ever her reasons, you can
tell this is happening when you hear something like, "Uh...well,
I'd like to go out with you Friday, but why don't you call me
late Friday afternoon and I'll let you know for sure?"

Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just
get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do
at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that
occur during the peak of the overwhelm.

How To Handle It…Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there's a concept
from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce
Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part
of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming
from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be
feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to.... KICK THE
OTHER GUY'S ASS!!!!

Just so, a woman's bullshit and tests are great
opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her
interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests,
instead of being, "Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do
wrong?", from now on will be.... AH, HAH! A RESPECT
OPPORTUNITY!!!

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of
behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented
opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest,
and intensify her desire to please you. Taken from this
perspective, you'll be mentally prepared, and may even find
yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit,
since you know it's your chance to get her really hot for
you!!!! Now, before we go on to some specific scenarios, let me
add one other thing: when you do put her in her place. ...

IT'S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!

In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and
trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes
late is definitely not the example to follow. All he's doing is
showing he can't control himself and he just earns the woman's
contempt. Notice I'm not saying you can't or shouldn't get a
little pissed. Just don't go nutso with a stream of obscenities.
(Streams of obscenities are for afterward, when you are in bed
with her.)

The other thing that doesn't work is acting like a hurt
little boy. Whining stuff like, "How could you do this to me?"
or, "But you promised!" won't cut it, good buddy. No. You have
to come from the calm, but firm "take it or leave it" position.
This is all part of displaying the critically important.........

WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!

You see, after years of experience and study, I've come to
the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for
you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose
you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk
away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you
are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value,
and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is
an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's
challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever
devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then
where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer:
nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with
this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship
grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!! Ok. On to some
scenarios.

Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time.
Her response is ambivalent, something like, "Well, I'd like to
but, why don't you call me later in the week and...." Here's
your response: "Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going
out with me something you can take or leave or is it something
that you're smart enough that you really want to do that?" Then
shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You're calling her on her
ambivalence and letting her know you don't have time to be put
on hold. And you're also suggesting she's stupid if she doesn't
grab this opportunity.

Finally, you're embedding a command (about which much more
later in other issues of this newsletter) that she really does
want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does.
It's not what she's expecting, and that always gets attention.
Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.
Understatement works best with this one. What if she still
hesitates? Well, say this one: You: Look. You have my number,
and I'm going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don't
call it's going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won't
realize until after you hang up is, that it'll be a loss for you
as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute
without offering to do it again at some specific time. (I've
heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from "My parakeet is
sick" to "I've got to shampoo the rug". Seriously)

Her: I can't make it. I've got a rare tropical disease
that's causing me to shrink by the hour.

You:(dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk
again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What's wrong?

You: What's wrong is I can't believe the bullshit I'm
hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look...you made a commitment to spend time with me and
now you're blowing me off. You're disrespecting me and
disrespecting my time and I'm NOT going to put up with it. My
rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to
keep it. If they can't keep it, I need to know at least a day in
advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with
that rule, great...if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it
work well!!! In fact, she'll probably call back with five
minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I'm not kidding here;
I've seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls,
eager to please me when I've done this. It throws some kind of
switch in their heads. I guess with some people, you don't
really get their attention until...

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking
about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence
with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use
of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an
imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I
can’t make this too clear. I’m talking about using your mind,
NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she
either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or
lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least
that long while totally ignoring you. Wait for her to finish,
and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you
just accidentally acting clueless?

HER:(mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don't ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I'll
always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you
understand me?

HER: Uh..uh...yes.


The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you
want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice
guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle
ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these
tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your
bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time,


Piece and peace

Ross

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7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...

Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:

Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?

Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?

Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?

Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.

Piece and Peace

Ross

P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
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About Assertiveness

What is assertiveness? It is speaking your mind and allowing others to do the same. Assertive people:

Say what they think, feel and want. Assertive people understand that they have the right to express themselves. Speak directly, honestly and tactfully - without excuses, apologies or "beating around the bush" Respect others' rights as well. An assertive person doesn't try to intimidate. There is a big yet subtle difference between assertive, nonassertive and aggressive. Be ASSERTIVE and notice the difference.

Because being assertive has many benefits. Have you ever wished you could:

Speak your mind clearly and effectively?

Say "NO" without feeling guilty?

Feel better about yourself?

Improve your relationships with others?

Disagree without seeming hostile?

Feel in control of your life?

Ask for assistance when you choose?

Get respect from THOSE others?

START by evaluating your behavior.

Take out a piece of paper and start writing. Think about how you interact with your family, friends, and business associates. Answer the following questions and notice how you feel and discover if you are Assertive, Nonassertive or Aggressive.

ASSERTIVE

* Are you confident without being overbearing?

* Are you proud when you do something well?

* Do you say what you feel without being hostile to others?

* Can you resist peer pressure?

* Can you give and receive compliments gracefully?

* Do you respect yourself?

NONASSERTIVE

1. Are you afraid that others will not like you if you disagree with them?

2. Do you remain silent when something bothers you?

3. Do you feel guilty when you say "no" to a friend, relative or salesperson?

4. Is it difficult for you to give or receive criticism?

5. Are you reluctant to ask for assistance?

AGGRESSIVE

A. Do you demand rather than ask?

B. Are you verbally or physically abusive?

C. Do you feel angry when others disagree with you?

D. Do you explode when someone criticizes you?

E. Do you feel that you have to win, that to compromise is to loose?

Tune in tomorrow to find out what causes each of the above and the clues to moving from one to the other as you CHOOSE.

How To Transform Your Self-Image With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Last issue, we talked a bit about how to interrupt and overcome the response of being fearful or shy or hesitant around women.

In this issue, we will continue with this thread. I want to start you on the process of doing a lot more than overcoming being "shy". I want to start you on the process of programming your subconscious mind for outrageous confidence, power and charm!

This is a subject about which I actually have some trouble writing, simply because I've evolved and created so many techniques that have helped so many thousands of guys, it's hard for me to know where to begin!

Does it seem like I'm bragging? Well, as they say in Missouri, it ain't bragging if..

....You Really Can Do What You Say You Can!

Alrighty then. There is a fundamental principle of the human mind I want you to really understand and incorporate and it explains why some people really can change their lives while other just stay hoping, wishing and stuck. It is a rule about how the human brain and mind work that controls a great deal of what we can do. And here it is:

While Your Brain May Be Attracted To Doing Something Different, Usually Brains Only DO What Is Familiar

Basically what I am saying here is, people tend to do what they are used to. People tend to think like they are used to thinking and feel like they are used to feeling.

Yes, they may WANT to, on some level, change.

But the reality is, given a situation in the real world, if you are used to acting, feeling and thinking in a certain way, just vaguely wishing you could be different ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL.

The key to any kind of real change, then, is mental rehearsal. You must learn to program in the way you like to feel, act, think, believe and respond and do so with sufficient repetition that the new feelings, actions, thoughts and beliefs are perceived by your brain as being more powerful, more vivid, more real and more familiar…

Than The Way You Used To Be!

I will say this again, because it is so imporant. It is NOT enough to realize you want to change. It is not enough to even THINK about changing. If you want a change, especially a change that is radically different, you must…

Vividly Mentally Rehearse It!

Now, I am not the first person to talk about mental rehearsal or it's dirty little new age cousin, "guided visualization". The problem with most of these methods, as presented is,

They Simply Do Not Work!

That's not because the people who teach or write about them don't care. It's simply because they are either leaving out vital ingredients to "make the recipe work" or because they are adding in stupid stuff that just doesn't belong.

So let me give you some vital keys to make mental rehearsal work for you, so in a matter of a few short weeks you can totally reprogram the deepest levels of your mind for the kind of beliefs, attitudes, awareness, behaviors and timing to bring you outrageously magnetic confidence and power with women.

Key #1: The role of breath. As I pointed out last issue, breathing is of vital importance for making any deep level change.

We could get into all sorts of meta-physical explanations but let's keep it scientific for a while at least. The scientific fact is that if you have a prolonged fear or anxiety response, eventually the limbic part of your brain that controls the flight/fight response gets progressively triggered by the smallest inputs, like a car alarm that goes off when a cat walks by.

Unless you interrupt this limbic over-drive, any programming you try to do with the other levels of the brain and mind are going to get sabotaged and disrupted, so change will take much more "will power" and fighting yourself.

We want to do things the easy way.

So the first step in doing your mental rehearsal for power with women will be to take ten minutes to do your breathing as taught in the previous newsletter. And if you aren't willing to take ten minutes for yourself to succeed with women…

Pack It In Now Buckwheat And Make Some More Room On The Planet!

Key #2: Understanding and using the two kinds of visualization.

Alright, this is not that hard to understand, but it is a key reason why most visualization and guided imagery is usually an exercise in mere mental whacking off. If visualizing and mental rehearsal has never before worked for you, this is why, and now I promise it will.

(By the way, if you are one of those people who thinks "I can't visualize at all" I have ways to fix that too, but it's beyond the scope of this newsletter. You can contact me privately: sandworm77@comcast.net).

Anyway, there is the kind of visualization where you see yourself in the images. It's like watching a home movie of yourself, so you see your image of what you are doing or experiencing, how you are acting, etc.

This image which is useful for motivation and setting an overall direction for your mind is called disassociated. It means you are watching your self go through an experience, but you are not actually in the image so you don't feel very much, if anything, of the feelings of being there.

The Power Of Associated Imagery

The second kind of visualizing is where you do not see yourself in the images, but you see what you would actually see if you stepped into the image and were really there, looking out through your own eyes. We call this associated imagery, and this kind of imagery is what is most useful for fully rehearsing new behaviors, responses, emotions and thoughts.

The key to proper mental rehearsal that really works is to first use a dissociated set of images; seeing yourself the way you would like to look, talk, and act and then to switch to associated images, stepping inside the pictures and actually moving, talking, thinking, and feeling the way you'll move, talk, think and feel when you are actually in the real situation.

Does this make sense?

First seeing the disassociated images of the way you want to be sets a guide post and a direction for your brain, so it gets an overall idea.

Then, seeing the associated images and actually walking around making the actual physical movements, talking out loud the way you'd speak, doing what you'd be actually doing FILLS IN THE DETAILS FOR YOUR BRAIN.

An Example Of A Mental Programming Session For Confidence And Power With Women The Two Kinds Of Visualizing…Plus A Special "Boost"!

Before I give you this practice, remember that the process of re-programming your subconscious mind for success with women is just that, a process. That means it takes some repetition and practice for the new thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and feelings to take root and take hold.

So you should practice this once a day for 2-3 weeks before you expect to see any results, though some people see results immediately

Ok then…

Pick a situation-a specific context-where you'd like to have more power and confidence with women.

Let's say it is in the initial approach or walk up.

The first thing I want you to do is sit comfortably on the flow and energize yourself with some of the breathing exercises (a key to making this work) that I've discussed before or breathing exercises you find in any good book on yoga or meditation.

The next thing I want you to do is mentally create a place in your mind where you believe anything is possible.

To do this, begin counting backward in your mind as follows:

Visualize the number 3. See it 3 times, as in 3, 3, 3. Then see the number 2 and visualize it 3 times as in 2, 2, 2. Finally, see the number 1, three times as in 1, 1, 1. Mentally say each number as you see it in your mind.

Now, stand up. Imagine in front of you, a circle, on the ground. Use your actual physical arm and make the motion of drawing the circle on the ground.

Look at the circle and thing of it as a place where ANYTHING can be made possible. Where anything can be made real. Where anything can be created. Then step into it.

Ok. Now, imagine that situation where you want to be more confident and powerful with women. See the image of how you would look when you are that confident. See yourself acting, talking, standing, moving and feeling as you would like to.

This is your disassociated image.

Using Your Associated Imagery

Now, take a step forward and imagine you are actually stepping into the image so you are walking, breathing, talking from that place. See what you would actually see from you own eyes if you were there. Feel what you would feel.

Now, for an extra boost of confidence, step outside yourself and step into the woman you are meeting. Imagine you are looking at yourself through her eyes, feeling how excited she feels to meet you, hearing her voice in her head saying, "Wow..this guy is hot."

Finally step back out of her and see your confident,
powerful self again, disassociated. Mentally give yourself a command that this self will be there for you, with all the qualities, behaviors, insights, attitudes and timing you need for total success with women.

Key #3 The Power Of Letting It Go

Once you've done your mental rehearsal and visualization for the day, you must dismiss it from you mind and LET IT GO.

Too often, we are taught that to get something we really want or a change we really want in ourselves, we have to constantly think about it, keeping our "goal" in the front of our mind.

In fact, this over-motivation is a load of crap that just keeps people stuck.

You have to find the proper level of motivation to create change, and that involves knowing when to just dismiss it from your mind and let it go.

It's sort of like baking cookies in an oven (here we go with baking analogies again; first it was recipes, now it's cookies!). If you put the dough in the oven but keep opening the oven door every 30 seconds to check if the cookies are done, they will never get finished!

In fact, this constant thinking if you are progressing or not or if it is working is just another form of doubt. You see, "hope" and "doubt" are really the same thing. They both involve uncertainty.

Once you've done your mental rehearsal, you need to let it go. Just release it, relax and know it will be there for you in the real world.

Ok. I think I've already over-loaded you a bit. Next issue, I will take you through an actual, structured, guided-visualization/mental rehearsal that you can learn to do on a daily basis to super-charge your confidence, power and success with women.

Til then,

Peace and Piece,

Ross


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What To Say To Meet Women ANYWHERE!

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Today I received the following question in email:

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I was wondering Ross, if you can suggest some icebreakers or opening lines to initiate conversations with? Like when you see an attractive girl and you want to approach her but you're not sure what to say. You want to say something but you're not sure what and then you think about it to long and its to late!

You know something comfortable that girls will smile at and want to keep the conversation going instead of us constantly talking.

I want her to say something after I initiate it so we can see if there is some chemistry there or not. And being able to get past "Hi"..You know what I mean? Are there some opening lines you can suggest I can use the next time I go out that are appealing? That way I will be armed with some ice breakers and will lead to getting to know someone hopefully.

Could you please let me know at your earliest convenience?
Thank you. Dimitrios
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Ok. For Dimitrios and all of you reading this:

This all depends on where you find yourself and what you see the girl doing.

This makes sense, doesn't it?

If you want a line that works in every circumstance, in every situation, no matter where you find yourself, and what the girl is doing, I guess you could go,

Hi..I noticed you here and realized if I didn't say something....I'd never get to find out what you're like..other than what I already know.

When she says, "What do you know?"

You say, "That you seem like you'd be cool and fun to talk to. I'm...YOUR NAME HERE".

You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.

It's not so much a matter of what to say.

No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.

Does that make sense?

Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?

Why?

Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.

If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself out loud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walk up and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.

So, I will say it again.

The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.

Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them? Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so, what should I compliment?

Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is, what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.

Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment, I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"

Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:

1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman(no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.

2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact in fact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and delivered with a MATTER of fact voice tone.

This means I don't overdo it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.

It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.

Really, this is about the sub -text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.

But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that ***I*** take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.

Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....

Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!

Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".

It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".

Ok. Back to compliments then.

I prefer to compliment women on the following things:

1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy a woman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."

Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.

No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.

The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.

2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."

Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi". That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.

Why is this important?

Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.

Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!

Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!

This, of course, is part of the number #1 rule in Speed Seduction®: Use your imagination to capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions!

3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.

The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.

So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, ""I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".

Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.

Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".

Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"

This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.

Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe. But let me give you just a couple I have used.

One day, as I sat having coffee, this woman walked into the Coffee B*** and T** L***, a local coffee house chain. I noticed immediately that:

1. She had purple hair 2. She had purple fingernails 3. She had purple eye shadow 4. She had purple lipstick 5. She was wearing purple gym clothes 6. She had purple shoes (Yes, I wondered if her PANTIES were purple, but I didn't ask!)

Now, I could have just made a straight comment/observation, as in, "Wow. I see you like the color purple".

Instead, I chose to be funny. I said, "Hmmm..excuse me...but I'm getting a psychic message about you from the spirit world.

Yes...yes..it's a bit fuzzy..hold on..hold on! Yes, the spirits are telling me..YOU LIKE..THE COLOR....PURPLE.

Now, she busted out laughing and that started the conversation.

nother time, I was with a friend in a restaurant/coffee place and we noticed this very cute Asian girl studying her text book so hard, her ears were about to start smoking. She was obviously having a hard time understanding it, talking to herself out loud and then obviously talking to herself in her head.

We sat at the table near her and I said, "Excuse me..can I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker and my friend and I have something very important to discuss."

Now, at that point, she busted up laughing and joined in our conversation.

So again; I can provide examples with this kind of opener. And I can tell you how to come up with your own. But you are going to have to match your opener to what you actually see and observe about her-does that make sense?


Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend-

1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.

2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!

3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.

Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.

In any case, whatever approaches you use, bear in mind one more thing I teach my students: 90% of the time, the worst that can happen is NOTHING will happen.

The image of the cold, cruel, rejecting, vicious "bitch"
really exists pretty much only in the movies. Most women, if they aren't interested (and most actually do respond positively to a sincere, fun approach, even if they don't get romantically interested) just won't do anything.

They won't yell.

They won't shoot a dirty look.

They won't hit you or call the cops or the bouncer.

Most, if they just aren't interested, simply WON'T RESPOND.

So get this: the worst that can happen is NOTHING WILL
HAPPEN.

Repeat after me: THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN IS: NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.

I've approached thousands of women, literally. In all that
time, maybe 5 instances have I ever been yelled at or have women had something truly vicious to say. And in those cases, I just chalked it up to something that had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.

Maybe they were having a terrible day. Maybe their boyfriends beat or abused them. Who knows?

I know if I approach someone in a fun, non-threatening, and sincere way, and they are STILL mean, THEY are the ones with the problem.

Again, this means it has to be ok with you if you don't
"win" all the time. Or better still; define winning as having fun, polishing your skill, and learning SOMETHING about the person you are going to meet. That's within the power and ability of EVERY person, and most of the time, you learn something quite pleasant.

Ok. Enough on this. Hope this helps. I've shot a video
series on this and am in the process of editing it. I WILL
ANNOUNCE WHEN IT IS READY, so please don't call the office and bug them about it, OK? They get cranky about that kind of thing and I'm all about...

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Never Fear Again!

These days its fairly easy to predict the weather.

Would you like to be able to predict YOUR future as easily as predicting when it's going to rain or snow?

When we know what the weather is going to be, we can easily prepare for it so we're never caught off-guard.

Why not approach life in a "prepared" mode?

Why not prepare in advance, so that you will meet the future with confidence ability and empowerment, rather than panic confusion and fear?

It's been said that "Luck" is what happens when preparedness meets opportunity. That's true. There's no such thing as luck except the luck which we create and act upon.

The Spirit Warrior makes his or her own luck.

Remember this important rule:

"Any Area of Your Life You Do Not Design, You Are Leaving To Default!"

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Three Strikes and you are Out

Guys send me situations or material and ask for my comments. Sometimes they appear to be created and want to know hypnotically what if this happened. Others appear to be from discussion groups and they want another opinion. Evidently a guy went out one day and tried approaching women (I say tried because he failed) on three separate occasions and failed.

The second one seemed most interesting to me. The pick up line from the seduction home study course goes some like this: Excuse me, have you every been told that you are a shining example of genetic perfection. Or Excuse me, I noticed you and I think you are a shining example of genetic perfection.

NOTE: The main rule here is to notice her response and act accordingly. If she respond positively, continue. If she responds negatively, STOP.

So this guy reports that he says: Excuse me, but has somebody ever told you that you are the perfect example of …. Physiological perfection?

Two Comments: “BUT” negates everything in front of it. So he is saying that he is totally non caring if he interrupts, intrudes or not. Second, somebody is different from anybody. Do you know somebody who fixes cars versus do you know anybody who fixes cars. Is he emphasis is on fixing cars or a person who fixes cars: Which? Just a side, Physiological is harder to say and is different than Genetic. One is natural and the other achieved.

She responded: Thanks, but no they haven’t. And then she just walked away.

RED FLAGS: Her “But” is saying NO THANKS. And then she just walked away. NEGATIVE RESPONSE, STOP.

He keeps going: I think that people like you should be let known every once in a while how special they are.

He has now moved to aggressive. When do you hear the phrase “people like you.” It is usually not a compliment. He has passed judgment and has passed the point of observation. Yes, he observed that she was different in his eyes. Now he is insisting that she see it too.

She responded: Thanks And then walked away.

Hold on, this guy still hasn’t gotten the message. He is not letting her response guide his next move.

He now says as he is now following her: What was it that I said that was so threatening to you to cause you to slowly walk away from me as I talk to you.

And then she took off at warp speed.

Of Course, he just became a predator and stalker. He is lucky that she did not go get the cops.

I think this guy has good intentions and is just excited with a new tool that he doesn’t understand. He got a new tuning fork and is using it as a pitch fork. Instead of listening to and feeling the vibrations, he is using it to throw crap against the wall and see if any sticks. I also think his underlying belief based on this and the other two strikes is one of physical power instead of finesse and not realizing the difference.

Dr YJC

Erickson Covert Hypnosis

We have been teaching Erickson Covert Hypnosis and NLP for specific applications since 1990. These applications include seduction, sales, magick/psychic influence, huna and business management.

It has come to our attention that the need, demand, interest has been shown in other applications.

The underlying principles are the same. Keep reading the Blog.

Dr YJC

Isn’t Manipulation bad?

Manipulation is to move in a direction with deliberateness. It is neither good or bad. The result may be GOOD OR BAD because of the INTENT. If you have the best interest of the individual at heart, then the manipulation is good. The art of manipulation can be for emotional manipulation (cheerleading) which is simply mental manipulation. You can also learn to manipulate energy with the ancient and modern ninja and huna techniques. Now you can understand the difference between persuasion and manipulation. Manipulation can control limiting beliefs thus freeing the self or keeping the self stuck.

Dr YJC

Attitude Motivation

A short one tonight – The question came up as “What is the best way to motivate yourself. What is the best motivation.” Many would say the basic needs. You are motivated to work to survive. This is not entirely true. There are many people who are motivated to survive by being leaches, blood suckers, energy vampires, bad check writers, welfare seekers, etc. These people do not need anything outside of themselves to motivate them. They do not need to stand in front of a mirror and chant positive statements or affirmations. They do not need for the most part for someone to get on their case about how they are living their life. So what do they have that is so powerful that they cruise through life totally motivated to do as little as possible of what the rest of us call work or responsibility.

Here is the answer. It is in the title. They have an attitude. I was listening to a tape from 1977 today. There was this one gentleman explaining that motivation without effort comes from attitude. Now by “without effort,” I think he meant that there are no extra ordinary ritual or energy expended to be motivated, to feel motivated, to get motivated.

As he shared his view, an attitude is the outward expression of the inner beliefs. If you have an inner belief of working and everything will be OK, then the attitude of doing a mental or physical activity to accomplish a goal is just natural and effortless. It could be expressed as “I don’t like lazy people” or “A little hard work never hurt anybody” or “Let’s get on with it” or “Did you every see a squirrel not store nuts”. Of course there are thousands more sayings that express the same attitude.

So what is the attitude you have or the attitude you want that will motivate you to accomplish your goals and invest in your own self development?

Let me here some of your limiting attitudes and most importantly some of your attitudes that will motivate you effortless.

Dr YJC

PS: For Tomorrow. Think about this. You do not know what you look like. You may see a reflection in a mirror and you probably do not see the reflection of yourself in other people.

Is She Going To Call You? The No-Spin-Zone!

My sincerest wish for you is that you discover your inner strength and innate personal power so that you are not needy for women and ego validation through sexual conquest.

And that standing solid on your own principle, which you need never sacrifice for a relationship, you attract...

... not seek, not woo, not supplicate, not acquire through expenditure...

... a soul-mate who is hotter-than-hell beautiful and who possesses your values and beliefs!

Too often our desire clouds our judgment, and we assign values onto the object of our desire, values which do not actually exist in the person.

A classic example of this is assigning high intelligence or moral integrity to beauty.

While beautiful women can be intelligent and moral, just as often they are not intelligent at all and rather shallow, and would be the first to tell you so...

...but why should they?

They are enjoying the ride - the dinners, the drinks, the gifts, the attention, praise and worship!

Don't forget that they too have an ego that craves to be fed, why would they rock the boat?

They will when "something better comes along" and you will be left desolate and despairing, sinking further into the hole of neediness.

To stay out of the trap, remember this Bolan Mastery Key:

Do Not Base Your Sense of Self-Worth on the Approval of Women.

Matter of fact, do not base your sense of self-worth on ANYONE's approval. Ever.

To have the approval of others should be respected and appreciated, but not actively sought after.

To seek after it is your ego's craving to be fed.

It should simply come naturally.

And if it doesn't come?...

.... do not notice!

You will find that if you are going about your business to be the very best you can be as a Master Warrior of Life, the right one will notice you and reach out.

I always noticed when I looked like I was going somewhere, it got the attention of the beautiful women. Why? Because all the other guys are feeding at the troff like cattle....

....and here comes a stallion, going somewhere!

That is far more interesting energetically!

It "magnetizes"

Always remember these two things:

1. People Are Energy

2. People Are Magnets

Now, I received a question recently: "What should I say on her answering machine so that she will call me back?"

I use Bill O'Reilly's No-Spin-Zone rule: "If I leave a message twice, and they do not call me back, I do not call them again."

That's a great rule.

It means no desperation, no clinging, no neediness.

It means you respect yourself enough to not go chasing after someone like a love-sick puppy.

So what kind of message should you leave?

Plain and simple: "Hi, it's Scott. Give me a call. My number is xxx-xxxx"

That's it.

If she doesn't call you back? Great!

You don't want someone like that anyway. She did you a huge favor by removing herself from your life.

Keep it real and you'll never live a lie.

Hell is right here on earth for those who live in delusion.


Yours in Warrior Wisdom,

Scott Bolan

Firewall for the Brain

You have a firewall for your computer.

You have anti-virus software and spyware removal for your computer.

Why?

Because there are constant attacks, and constant new attacks being developed to hack into your computer.

What makes you think YOUR BRAIN is any different than your computer?

Just like viruses and spyware, there are "programs" that are developed to "hack" into your brain and take what they want.

After they've taken what they want, they leave your "computer" not operating very well, and getting dire results or just barely working at all!

You see, these programs literally set you up to fail, lose and self-destruct, after they've silently robbed you of your greatest force - your power for manifestation!

They get you to doubt yourself, to be cynical, negative, or confused, to freeze up when you should make a move.

If they get you to simply not make a winning move, they win and you lose!

I don't know about you, but me...

... I'd rather WIN!

Winning this game of life is what it's all about, and I'm damn well not going to let any programming stop me from winning.

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What Could You Do If You Were Not Afraid?

If you weren't afraid...

... you could look life in the eye and tell the truth, boldly and graciously going for what you want and getting it.

If you weren't afraid...

... you'd stop blaming others and circumstances, and start making changes within yourself and make better decisions.

If you weren't afraid...

... you would find opportunities instead of reasons.

If you weren't afraid...

... you would ask her out, and she would be delighted to say yes.

If you weren't afraid...

... you'd put down the pills, alcohol and cigarettes, and go on a walk instead.

If you weren't afraid...

...you'd stop asserting your beliefs, and simply BE them instead.

If you weren't afraid...

... you'd stop being cynical, and open up your creativity and intuition - and find your possibilities expanding.
If you weren't afraid...

... you'd stay home and work on yourself, instead of following the impulses of others seeking amusement and diversions.

If you weren't afraid...

... you'd magnetize what you want, and repel what you don't want, effortlessly.

If you weren't afraid...

... money would come to you quite easily, you'd have more than enough and it would be no big deal.

What would life be like if you weren't afraid?

Now is the time to find out.

One of the first things I'll show you in the Martial Mastery course is a simple method to get rid of fear instantly and forever.


Is that fair?

Sincerely,
Scott Bolan

I'm Ready To Start

Is it realistic to believe I can create Unlimited Wealth?

Wealth is the abundance of valuable material possessions or resources. So what is the difference between rich and wealthy? You can say I am rich and you can say I am wealthy. You can say I have wealth. You can’t say I have rich. You could look at it as wealth is everything but money and rich is money. Typically you can loose money a lot easier than you can loose wealth.

Unlimited is a pretty big number. I think what you really mean is “Can I accumulate those valuable material possessions or resources in the abundance so that I do not have to be concerned with how to support the life style I CHOOSE. This is true wealth and implies great health.

Yes, it is absolutely realistic.

Several of our programs and seminars focus on using NLP, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Huna and Matrial Arts in building wealth, creating wealth, wealth creation and the wealth management that follows. One of the secrets to master that fountain of wealth is to become a wealth builder. It is not an instant process. Many of you have wealth today and are interested in more wealth without risk. Every venture has risk. The real objective is to minimize risk.

Wealth and power are not necessarily connected. Sure some wealthy people have power, political power, economic power, financial power, business power. They are usually referred to as Rich and Powerful not Wealthy and Powerful.

I personally do not believe the current government line about "Collective Entrepreneurship."

Start with Money, Wealth and Prosperity

Dr YJC

You Will Learn To Radiate Confidence

You Will learn to radiate confidence, warmth, and charm, that women findirresistibly attractive.

You can learn to radiate confidence, warmth, and charm, that men findirresistibly attractive.

You Will master the energy state to radiate confidence, warmth, and charm, that women find irresistibly attractive.

You subconscious Will learn to radiate confidence, warmth, and charm, that customers find irresistibe.

Now it's your turn

Wake Up People Explained Today

I move people a little different than most. My mom was an alcoholic. She was the nicest person in the world one minute and the opposite the next. I learned to sense people very early to survive. Today I can detect Bull Shit quickly or with a lot of people it is there rationalization of what has happened and they want me to buy into it. You do not help a drunk giving him a drink. You do not help a drug addict by giving them drugs, no matter how compelling their story might be. I ask a few questions. Make a few statements. Observe/Listen for reactions and make a preliminary determination of what is going on.


My agenda is to be curious about what makes this person tick. I want to know how they will respond in a given situation. In technical terms, I am finding out their model of the world, their meta programs. In the simplest terms, I am being aware. I am in the moment. I am focused on them.


Being aware, by the way, accelerates learning and puts more things on automatic quicker so you can have a smoother, easier, more productive life.


In college, I took very few notes. I was focused on the teacher and the concepts. Understanding was first, notes were second. Most people focus on note taking with the hope of understanding later. This usually results in inconsistent results. Can you understand why?

Dr YJC

If You Were Like Me What Would You Be Doing?

If a teenage child ask you, "What are you doing." Just answer, "If you were like me what would you be doing?

Being Responsible, being productive, being caring. Are You Starting? You can be Too, It's easy."
Then after watching their head spin say, "What are you fixing for Supper"

Dr YJC