I'm Not Easy

I’m Not Easy

They were getting to know each other. There were two couples and the lady had brought a friend and so had the guy. The two guests were talking. She was doing the typical posturing and he had some training in dealing with the initial grilling most guys get.

All of a sudden she pops up and says, “I’m Not Easy.” How does our guy respond. He gives somewhat typical yet humorous and tantalizing answer, “Whoa, that is amazing because I’m Not Easy Either”

He called and wanted to know how he could have handled it differently.

I reminded him to listen and remember to use what she gives you.

Is “I’m Not Easy” an identity statement she is making. If so what does it mean. Does it mean that, “She is Difficult” or that, “She is hard.” So you can use these corollaries.

She says, “I’m Not Easy”

You say, “What does that mean” or “Does that mean that you are difficult” or “Does that mean that you are a hard woman”

Or does it mean in this case, which he found out a little later, that she is a gold digger and expects you or any other man to spend a significant amount of money on her if they expect any chance of sex”

You may find out that she is NOT EASY because she has a lot of mental problems and sees a shrink once a week to bitch about the last relationship.

Then I reminded him that if this is a pattern then he is attracting gold diggers to support an underlying belief.


Dr YJC

Don't Call Me Babe.

Don’t Call Me Babe

Tony made a mistake when he called her Babe. Or Did He. In many parts of the country especially the South, it is common for men and women to refer to someone they are talking to as “Honey.” It is just the polite, warm, light way of addressing you when they don’t know your name. “Well, Honey, the grits are great this morning and every morning for that matter.”
“Babe” is a similar and is used mostly by guys referring to you are their close girlfriend when you may or may not be. It is also used by women referring to their man. Remember Sonny and Cher, “I Got You Babe.” Times have changed. “Gay” has gone from happy to homosexual to something else that I can’t get teenagers to explain. Although it seems to mean Stupid today.

Anyway, when Tony referred to the young lady he just met as “Babe”, she took it in a negative way. A new time Tony, wake up.

In Tony’s defense, he did strike a revealingly important cord with her. She promptly informed him that she was NOT EASY. But That is for tomorrow.

Dr YJC

Sensual Romantic Tip and Sensual Arousal - A Start

Sensual Romantic Tip and Sensual Arousal - A Start

Steve called today. “Wow,” he said, “I just heard a seduction coach say that you should approach a woman at an angle from the front. I did it and it worked.” “Wow,” I said, “did he explain it.” He Replied, “No he is just very observant I think and is on to something”
I explained. Have you ever watched National Geographic or any of the Animal shows on TV. It is true in all the animal kingdom. Direct approach, eye to eye, is confrontational. It is predator versus prey. They are determining which is which. Watch the classic shows as the hyenas circle the lions. Approaching at an angle shows mutual respect and flirting. There is a comfort and sensual arousal that naturally takes place with the angle approaching. There is also a significant difference just in shifting the eyes so that the right eye is looking into the right eye even in close conversation. And when the left eye is looking into the left eye. That’s for tomorrow.

Your Guide To The Future

Dr YJC

More Media and Political Seduction

Employee Free Choice Act

You never heard of it and if you were a politician you would vote for it because how can you be against FREE and EMPLOYEE and CHOICE.

In a nut shell, this law does away with SECRET ballots in Unionization Votes. Everyone, the company and the union and all the employees know how every person cast their vote. Do you think this would work in other elections? Would you like your vote known to everyone?

AND it gets worse. There is also a provision in the proposed law that would make the government the arbitrator in any dispute. The Employee would be left out of the process. The government would impose its solution on the dispute regardless of how the employees felt.

NEXT

The Obama administration's new budget, with deficits that make previous irresponsibile deficits look like child's play, has a cover that says "A New Era of Responsibility." How can a politician be a bad guy when he votes for this name and by the way never bothers to read much less explain to the people who elected him. Of course that assumes he know what is happening. Go online and read "Power of Life and Death Is In Our Words" by Thomas Sowell.

NOW for Personal Seduction. The same type of things happen with words in the seduction of your wife for example. Sweetheart, Do you remember that time in the mountians when you were so turned on that .... You can elobrate on the activity from here. At some point she says, "Are you trying to use some nlp seduction pattern on me" or something similar. First never deny what you are doing. Just say, "Yes, and it is your RESPONSIBILITY to make sure that I do it in such a way that you get exactly what you want, isn't it." And keep going.

Your Guide To The Future

Dr YJC

Sticks And Stones May Break Your Bones BUT

Remember the Old Saying, “Stick and Stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you” Well think about the BUT. BUT negates everything in front of it. Moreover, it is the “words” that Lincoln was referring to when he talked about the defeat from within.

I ask you to think about this. What is “Economic Justice” or “Social Justice” or “Collective Entrepreneurship.” These are words that are not normally used together. While the individual meanings may be something that you understand, the combination is not. Therefore, the speaker has you believing or agreeing to one thing when his intention is something else totally.

This is a simple form using NLP for seduction, it is natural language processing. Is our government doing it?

I was reading this article on Obamese and seduction. You can see it in the news at the bottom under seduction. It was by a communist writer and essentially said that America was evil and reminded us that an earlier meaning of seduction was to destroy. It was a good example of how the press and a writer can twist anything.

Hopefully, (I will use it also), we can untwist it.

Words in the stimulus bill say “Buy American.” That is now the law. Someone in Washington laughed and said something to the effect of, “Oh, but we won’t enforce it.”

So today was my political commentary. I think there will be more.

I believe that man is inherently good and that when left to his own will do good. Therefore, man needs the minimum of government to increase freedoms and prevent anarchy. The world without stoplights would not increase freedom.

Let get back to the good seduction. What is erotic mind control and how does it relate to seduction and neuro linguistic programming. In learning how to use nlp, you need to become a lover of language and how the brain does natural language processing. The brain is a learning machine. It is constantly processing all input including language. The secret to seduction patterns is to understand that the brain is looking for them, either to learn them or to compare them to patterns already learned. I get a lot of husbands calling and asking if Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction can be used in wife seduction. The answer is yes. So simply speaking, erotic mind control is using language which invoke erotic thoughts and you direct those thoughts with additional language.

Is The Beer Good Here?

Welcome to Seduction NLP blog. I intend for this to be an open exchange between myself and you, the person who has been eagerly awaiting such a forum. NLP and Covert Hypnosis are the only technologies that are our there being applied in the real seduction world. Your questions and comments are welcome and encouraged. They will be moderated (screened). We do not want advertisement or people wanting to disrupt the exchanges. Of course, the first question that comes up is how does seduction with NLP differ from others forms of seduction.

A person called the other day. He made the statement that NLP has not changed in 30 years. I told him that with the traditional certification training of NLP, the statement is probably true. The traditional NLPer’s have put the medical community, therapy community, psychologist community, psychiatrist community “ethics” on the whole field. They believe and therefore teach that you can not DO NLP with someone unless they are sitting in front of you and the someone “patient” give you express permission to do NLP. This is a load of BULL.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) as researched by Richard Bandler is simply a study of how the brain processes language and how the resulting neuro networks are created and run our reality. Therefore, the studying of NLP by you is simply a way for your communication to be more effective.

There are a couple of other ways of looking at it. For Example, if the “patient” environment is OVERT, then any other environment is COVERT and covert is bad. Ha It is this arena that there has and continues to be discoveries made. Richard Bandler and John LaValle continue to publish material and conduct seminars demonstrating the latest in NLP.

Another way of looking at “Covert” versus “Patient” NLP is using the conscious mind. The Overt “Patient” NLPer’s teach to talk to the conscious mind, consciously asking if a person can or can not experience some sensation with one of their senses. This is not necessary and many times just a waste of time as it becomes two conscious minds playing with each other.

An example, one of our clients is a heart surgeon. Remember Patch Adams. Most doctors are taught to dissociate when doing surgery. The problem is they are always dissociated. Patch demonstrated with humor in his case that a doctor could be associated (have rapport with) the patient before surgery. He could dissociate during surgery and then re-associate after surgery. However this surgeon wanted to do more and take it to another level. I explained that the conscious mind is the one which goes to sleep. The sub-conscious or Greater Mind never sleeps. This is even under sedation during surgery. So we explained that the talk that takes place during surgery by the doctors is extreme important. Think of the difference.

Normal Doctors: “This patient is a tub of lard, the arteries are like sewer pipes. He is Doomed no matter what we do. Boy is she ugly.”

Our Surgeon talks to the greater mind continuously during surgery. He instructs the patients body to work on the inside while he works on the outside. “We are going to make an incision along this the inside of the left thigh. Just allow the incision and STOP the blood flow in that area. Everything is OK. Thank for your assistance.”

He is talking to the subconscious. He is being Covert. He patient never knows consciously what took place. He just knows that he likes the surgeon and that the surgery went very smoothly.
So now on to Seduction and NLP talking to the subconscious mind (The Greater Mind).
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Is the Beer Good Here?

I was talking with a business associate the other day and he told me this story. He was in a sports bar watching a game and having a beer. There were some other guys near by. Two girls walked in and he was interested in one. He ignored them both. A couple of guys approached the girls where he could here and see everything. The same old game of pickup line and replies was taking place. He started laughing hysterically still ignoring them. The guys missed it all together. The girls however picked up on it immediately and the one he was interested in came over to the bar and asked, “Is the beer good here?” He responded, “ YES the beer is good here.”
His question to me was what could I have said?

First rule is pay attention to her and let that guide you. USE What she gives you.

Second rule is remember how the brain works in answering questions and asking questions.
So I asked him, “ What are the assumptions in her question, “Is the beer good here?””
Well he said, “She likes beer”

I said, “OK and what else?”

He said slowly, “She likes good beer”

“OK” I said and “what else?”

Now there was a long pause. I prompted, “Why did she ask that question?”

He was still in trance. “One assumption you are making is that she has never been in the bar or had a beer in the bar. Is that true or false.”

He now was starting to get it. “I don’t know,” he responded.

So one of the first questions you could ask in response is, “Have you been in here before…. For a beer?” You are just checking for congruency. It is her pickup line, “Is the beer good here?”

He says, “OK I get it. So what else did I miss”

There is another thing about which you could be curious. Think about it this way. The words came out of her mouth, so they should/could/maybe be important to her.

Ask, “What is important about a good beer to you?” depending on her response proceed.

“What other good things happen with a good beer?”

“How much time do you spend looking for a good beer?”

“How do you choose a good beer?”

These are all open ended questions on a topic she brought up. Even if it was a pickup line, you have now turned it into something else. Something important to her. You are capturing and leading her imagination.

More later - Get It.

Dr YJC