I’m Not Easy
They were getting to know each other. There were two couples and the lady had brought a friend and so had the guy. The two guests were talking. She was doing the typical posturing and he had some training in dealing with the initial grilling most guys get.
All of a sudden she pops up and says, “I’m Not Easy.” How does our guy respond. He gives somewhat typical yet humorous and tantalizing answer, “Whoa, that is amazing because I’m Not Easy Either”
He called and wanted to know how he could have handled it differently.
I reminded him to listen and remember to use what she gives you.
Is “I’m Not Easy” an identity statement she is making. If so what does it mean. Does it mean that, “She is Difficult” or that, “She is hard.” So you can use these corollaries.
She says, “I’m Not Easy”
You say, “What does that mean” or “Does that mean that you are difficult” or “Does that mean that you are a hard woman”
Or does it mean in this case, which he found out a little later, that she is a gold digger and expects you or any other man to spend a significant amount of money on her if they expect any chance of sex”
You may find out that she is NOT EASY because she has a lot of mental problems and sees a shrink once a week to bitch about the last relationship.
Then I reminded him that if this is a pattern then he is attracting gold diggers to support an underlying belief.
Dr YJC